What is what to do when you get stood up?

It's frustrating and hurtful to be stood up. Here's some advice on how to handle the situation:

• Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel disappointed, angry, sad, or even embarrassed. Don't try to suppress these emotions. Let yourself feel them. Consider talking to a trusted friend or family member about how you're feeling. This helps process the disappointment and prevents you from dwelling on it alone. Here's a page on understanding%20your%20emotions.

• Resist the Urge to Immediately Contact Them: Give them a reasonable amount of time, but avoid bombarding them with texts or calls. A single, polite message checking in is acceptable ("Hey, just checking if everything is okay?"). If they don't respond within a short timeframe (e.g., an hour or two), move on. Here is a page about healthy%20communication to use in the future.

• Don't Blame Yourself: It's easy to start second-guessing yourself or wondering if you did something wrong. Remind yourself that being stood up is a reflection of their behavior, not yours. Avoid dwelling on "what ifs". Go to a self%20esteem page to avoid these negative feelings.

• Have a Backup Plan (or Make One): If you can, salvage the evening by doing something you enjoy. Watch a movie, read a book, spend time with friends, or treat yourself to something nice. If you were planning to go out, consider going by yourself or calling a friend to join you.

• Decide How to Respond (If They Eventually Contact You): If they reach out later with an explanation, consider whether you're willing to accept it. A sincere apology and a valid reason might warrant forgiveness, but repeated offenses are a red flag. Consider what your boundaries are and whether you want to continue communication. Read about setting%20boundaries if you think you struggle with doing this.

• Learn From the Experience: While it's important not to blame yourself, reflect on the situation. Were there any warning signs beforehand? Did they seem genuinely enthusiastic about the date? Use this information to better assess potential partners in the future.

• Protect Your Time and Energy: Being stood up is disrespectful of your time and feelings. Don't let it discourage you from dating or putting yourself out there. Remember that you deserve someone who values your time and treats you with respect. It may be time to have a self%20reflection session.